How to be more true to ourselves in a time of major disruptions and societal collapse? When our systems seem to fall apart, starting with our bodies and families, continuing with our environments, healthcare, and political system, cities, countries, our entire world. When we feel the current levels of mayhem, ignorance, rebellion, prejudice, and no matter how hard we work toward change, we seem to be powerless, and it can be quite hard to make our voice heard.
How could we change our current dynamics? Is there a way to change? Only if you are willing to face reality more consciously. You need to ask yourself, can you muster the courage to recognize and resolve the root problems within yourself? This is the reason why humanity suffers so much these days. If we aren’t willing to resolve our root problems, but instead denying, running away, and suppressing them, we cannot make the world a better place.
It is not enough to look at things on the surface or superficially anymore. Our society suffers like never before. We think we cannot do anything about the ever-growing differences in society. And we cannot do much about people who are starving and cannot afford education. Often, we accept the way we consume media misinformation, things, or even unhealthy food, too much alcohol, psychoactive substances, and medication, thinking we need them.
Denying Our Truth
Nowadays we suffer a great deal from denying our truth for various reasons. We can be afraid to face it, not knowing about it, suppressing it, escaping from it, out of fear of what’s going to happen if we get down to the root of it. It can be quite scary, and painful to deal with our shadows, which is also the main reason why people don’t do this work or stop halfway. Chances are, we tend to resist the type of truth that makes us feel bad, or hurt us.
Why we usually resist the truth that doesn’t serve us is because we feel by accepting them we could not deal with them, or we don’t have the power to change them. When you are strong enough to face the truth, you believe you can do something about it. But if you are not ready to accept what is true in life or regarding your life, you could feel quite powerless. Because you think it is outside of you to prevent or change things that negatively impact you.
This is the reason why many of us would ignore the truth, believing it only brings negative stuff, and no solutions. Besides, the more you deny the truth, the more frustrated, and the less ready you will be to change things, that won’t have all the negative effects you may have imagined. It could also happen that we have developed negative feelings related to accepting truth stemming from childhood or just life experience. In our current society, this is an unfortunately usual pattern.
Escaping the Truth as a Survival Mechanism
Many times not telling the truth makes us feel safer, and we think we can avoid problems this way. If we learn to deal with things resisting truth as children, the odds are, we also escape the truth as adults as a coping mechanism. Many of us do not understand why standing by the truth is important, when it can lead to negative consequences? Do they tend to think why insist on anything, no matter its value if it can negatively affect their lives?
Why be truthful when it only leads to negative experiences, you might ask. The sad reality is that those of us who think this way tend to come from family backgrounds where truth was used against us, negatively affecting us. It is the effect of unhealthy relationship dynamics. We develop such behavior when we are disappointed with being manipulated when out of good intentions we tell the truth. So we learn to accept that telling the truth leads to pain.
The last thing we want is others to use the truth against us, therefore, we get around it. The bad news is, if you have a hard time aligning with the truth, it can confuse you to the extent that you don’t know what’s true or real anymore. Especially so, if you had been misled in your childhood that certain things are true, only realizing later that those things are not true. This comes at the price of causing us to doubt our ability to grasp the truth and make us refuse it altogether.
Your Healing is Your Responsibility
Your baggage may not be your fault, but healing is your responsibility. A good example of this is coming from families where something like strict religion was imposed upon you, only realizing in adulthood that there’s life outside religion. The same goes for narcissistic parents. If you had to experience this, your connection with the truth could be fragile. There’s also a high probability that you use your resistance to the truth as an affirmation of your need for safety and consistency.
So, if you live in a state of illusion and the truth enters, it could destroy your peace and stability. Why should this feel wrong? If truth could destroy your situation, it must have been built on fake things anyway. And you must have fed your illusions to protect yourself from something unreal. If you resist reality, you could value being in control, feeling secure and well more than the truth. The sooner you realize that aligning with truth is the only way to achieve these, the better.
Choosing to Accept or Resist the Truth
If you only want to accept the truth to control something, and this is the only way you can feel better, you want to direct whether you will or won’t accept the truth, or reality of something. Where does this lead? Excuses why we have illusions. To deal with any state of illusion, you should admit what makes you feel uncomfortable, and your shortcomings. You should be honest with yourself, and it’s time to avoid shortcuts for the sake of feeling good. Realize this is a trap!
How can you know this? Often, things that feel good at first aren’t the best for you in the long run. If you want to succeed at something, more often than not, it will feel quite uncomfortable to complete it at times. As opposed to people with a diverted sense of reality, who live in a self-constructed fake reality, where most things feel good. Only, they tend to avoid the truth. But we need to realize that truth comes from diverse perspectives, as opposed to only one person.
Whereas illusion can be maintained by one person only. It is usually, therefore, a one-man show. It also works in relationships, by either one person creating an illusional bubble, pulling in the partner, and they perfectly create a dysfunctional world together. We all have seen some of these, right? It is meant to safeguard a false self-concept, operated from a wounded ego that finds it dangerous outside of its perfect bubble.
People with such tendencies usually don’t seek self-improvement asking themselves where do I resist the truth? They, instead, tend to point fingers at others. But it cannot go on forever, because our growth as human species is sabotaged in this way. We are living at a time and age, where everyone is called out on their weakness, as the Earth can only take so much now. So we should all aim to do our utmost to improve ourselves if we haven’t yet done so!
We are living in a world that considers it normal to live on a high dose of medication, not questioning that health comes at a big price, benefiting large pharmaceutical companies. But if you don’t deep dive into yourself and treat the root cause of your problems, they won’t get resolved by medication, substances, or anything else. Instead, when you ignore such problems for good, you could experience more symptoms due to your unresolved issues.
This process only leads to manifesting negative things repeatedly. And it’s not our responsibility to change the things around us we cannot, but start with those things within which we have the power to influence. The key is finding what is causing us to behave and speak the way we do, which affects how we think and make choices, and how we relate to others. Therefore, treating our symptoms could only be effective if we recognize the underlying root cause first.